Nikaah & Marriage Issues

Q: I was 18 when I met my now husband...and I found out after I fell in love with him that he has a illigitimate child..he had no contact with her since birth and did not want to as the mother didn't want him to have any rifts over the child as she was to marry a man she cheated with on my husband in the past... For 16 years there was no contact and I married my husband on the grounds that this will never be a problem 1 day as I was never given a option to accept this with him or not... Furthermore for years he did not want this himself..

A few months ago after 16 years the child contacted het father and out of no where he wanted to have a relationship with her but his ex and child is not muslim and I could not bring myself to accept this...

Firstly the child isn't islam..2ndly I feel betrayed at the fact that I have to change my life for others mistakes of 16 years..my pious parents accepted this marriage on grounds that this would never come back like this...

I do feel bad as I told my husband...i cannot accept his estranged ex and child which isn't muslim in my life after so many years when now I want to start my own family and if he wants his child I have no choice but to divorce him as I cannot accept and fix a 16 year lost relationship of him and his daughter.. Am I wrong to not accept this?because I feel like I've been wronged by him and his false promise at the time of marriage..im scared Allah will punish me for stopping him and the child from having a relationship...

Please help

Q: I would like to know if a divorcee needs a wali for her second nikah or is it allowed for her to make nikah without a wali or the walis permission?

Q: A person, after drinking alcohol, gets intimate with his wife, and the wife concieves. Will this child be considered as legitimate?

Q: How do we hold a Nikah according to Quran and Sunnah?

Q: Can a girl choose her father in law and her brother in law as wali or wakeel of nikah?

Q: A marriage proposal came for my daughter. The boy and his family involve in barelvi practices which we consider baseless, as my family is firm deobandi. In the situation, should I consider this proposal or not? If I refuse it would I be sinful because there is no big issue in the proposal apart from that. Please guide me properly so that it would help further.

Q: I am an unmarried girls of 32 yrs age. I am not getting any good match.  One person wants to get married to me as his 2nd wife. My mother is denying to do so. What shall I do.

Q: I am very concerned about my marriage and I need help. I have been married for 5 months now and my husband has not consummated our marriage. Although, he is intimate in other ways and treats me well. I am very disturbed and embarassed to talk to him about the issue. I wanted to know how should I deal with it.

Q: Can the groom go in the hall full of ladies after his nikah where no other males were allowed? Can he sit on the stage with his bride in front of all the ladies?

Q: Is a girl allowed to go to her fiancé’s house to visit the family, alongside her parents and family without the presence of the boy in the house. I think this is a cultural thing. Is there any thing mentioned regarding this in the shariah?