Nikaah & Marriage Issues

Nikaah breaking through one of the spouse becoming a murtad

Q: I am currently going through a very bad period and I needed your advice. I am originally from Pakistan and I came to UK 10 years ago. I married my wife just over four and a half years ago and she reverted to Islam. During our first year of marriage I did something bad which goes against the teachings of Islam (abortion) and since then my wife has not forgiven me. Since then she has also stopped practising Islam. Till date she does not respect me and always sheds mental abuse calling me names and always reminding me of what i did. Currently we have got 2 kids (2 1/2 year old and 1 1/2 year old). I have tried my best to make her happy but she argues with me multiple times during the day and shows a lot of anger towards our kids as well. Today as an example she has been arguing with me all day calling me all sorts of names and bringing up things from the past. I have apologized to her multiple amount of times but there are no signs of her stopping and all this is having an adverse effect on our lives. I am writing to you with the hope of getting some advice of what would be the best course of action islamically. I greatly love my 2 girls (kids) and as a result I have not divorced her as she will not let me see them and if i remarry she has said she will ensure that she breaks all ties with me and she will not let me see the kids. I am deeply concerned as she would bring the kids up catholic as her family is athiest. Is there any suggestions which you can provide which might help to ease my situation? Similarly is there any wazifahs I can read so that we can be a happily married couple once again.

Contraceptives

Q: My question is regarding the Islamic teachings of having offsprings after marriage as Islam strictly prohibits the birth control methods. I have three kids. All unplanned and my husband blames me for having them as he suggested to abort the second and third one. Allah blessed me with a boy and two girls but my husband keeps saying at least 5-10 times per day that we have a lot of children and blames me for having them. What should I do? How to save myself from the mental trauma as he blames every single thing on having babies?

Temporary nikaah

Q: I read in a fatwa according to Mufti Taqi Uthmani (D.B.) if there is a strong possibility of falling prey to Zinaa and fornication then it will be permissible to marry a woman on a temporary basis with the condition that no mention of time is made in the actual enacting of the Nikaah. Temporary Nikaah is not at all encouraged by the Shari’ah therefore it will only be resorted to in dire need. My question, if one really fears zina, can both partners intend to be just a time, but in the actual nikaah no time limit is mentioned. And in really dire situation can one do nikaah with a prostitute? I know that that is a disgusting question, but I want to know what's the ruling if one fears zina and gets depression etc, will the nikaah be valid with two witnesses?

Nikaah breaking through the husband becoming murtad

Q: I was in love with a Hindu boy for the last five years. When we decided for the marriage, I asked him to accept Islam and spend some time in Tablighi jamat before marriage. He accepted Islam legally and completed all of the mandatory requirements for conversion. He also spent few days in Tablighi Jamat. Then I married him on January 23, 2015. He promised me and my family members to lead Islamic life throughout the life. After few days from the marriage he was informing me to finish all of my prayers before he reaches home and few problems started. He offered prayers on Fridays for two weeks. After 2 months from the marriage he said he doesn’t believe in prophets, Life after death etc and they are all stories. After sometime I got separated from him in the month of july 2015 as he said he doesn't believe in Islam in his own words but he was not ready to give Talaaq as he was loving me lot. Whenever I asked for Talaaq he used to say that he can’t live without me and used to refuse it. I m staying separate since August 2015. Finally, he agreed for khula in September 2016. I married to a Muslim guy within 3 days from the date of receiving my khula papers. When my family members came to know about this marriage, they are questioning me that, I didn’t spend my iddah period of 3 months and my new marriage will not be valid. I assumed that my marriage is already broken on the day when he informed me that he doesn’t believe in Islam, Prophets and life after death etc. Could you please suggest me if I need to spend iddah period now or it’s already passed? Personally I didn’t spend Iddah period as I’m a working woman. Also, please let me know if my new marriage is valid or not.

Hurmat-e-Musaaharah

Q: What is the private parts of a female in hurmat-e-musaaharah. If someone sees his daughter's back lumbar region not covered with cloth who is sleeping and her genitals are covered and immediately turns his eyes away but has some feeling in his heart but no feeling of erection, does it constitute hurmat-e-musaaharah?

Nikaah via sms

Q: My question is my boyfriend proposed for me and I said yes to him by text. He showed it to two baaligh aaqil azaad men. Did our nikaah get valid or invalid?

Family members not permitting the girl to remarry

Q: I have been married twice before and have three children. I am living back with my parents (mom and brother) since earlier this year, but work and see to the kids for everything excluding rent to stay. I am having a hard time coping financially. I would like to remarry but my brother (my father has passed on some years ago) thinks it is too soon and will not meet the man that has put the proposal forward. My question is do I need consent from my brother and or mother?