Nikaah & Marriage Issues

Walimah

Q: I am from Durban and getting married in Cape Town and therefore cannot have a walima within 3 days. Is it permissible to have a walimah 3 weeks later?

Wife masturbating the husband

Q: I have two questions. A man like prostate stimulation. He does not want to get involved in the sin like make sexual relationship with any another male. Therefore can his wife give her strokes by prostate massage. Another question is that what about the ruling on licking sexual organs of each partner?

Wife refusing to have relations with her husband due to him taking a second wife

Q:

  1. I want to know that if a muslim man does second marriage and his first wife says that since you have married for the second time I will not have physical relations with you, Does this mean Divorce?
  2. My second question is under such relation is the man bound to give equal time to both his wives?

Finding out the gender of the foetus

Q:

  1. My wife is pregnant so she goes for ultrasound every month (because there is a little problem with pregnancy so doctors want to keep there eyes on it). Every time we go for ultrasound the dr ask us if we know the gender of the baby but I always tell them we don't want to know because this is blessing from Allah so boy or girl doesn't make a different as long as it's healthy but now somebody told my wife that it is ok to know the gender before birth so now she want's to know it which I totally don't agree. Please tell me if it permissible in Islam or not because it's a blessing from Allah?
  2. Once one find out that she's pregnant then until what time they can share the bed or we should stop as soon we find out what does Islam says about these two things please tell us?

Importance of consulting one's elders with regards to marriage

Q: I have found a spouse for myself and a very good one alhamdulillah, however he is from a different culture from me. I have nothing against interracial marriage or different cultures getting married in fact I find it very fascinating. I am scared what my family might say and that they will not accept. My brother is also a mufti and there are people in my area who have married from different cultures but my parents may have a different opinion when it comes to there own family. What should I do to overcome being scared and to be confident to tell my family?