Q: What is the requirement for Walima? Is it necessary that the bridegroom has sex with his bride and then has the walima the next day. If the bride has her periods on the wedding night and the bridegroom cannot have sex with her can the walima be performed the next day? Will the walima be valid or not? Please answer in the light of Quran and Sunnah.
Q: There is a couple who are separated for nearly two years, and recently they divorced - now the wife asked for divorce. I want to know if the husband has to pay her anything, like mehr money, as the wife demanded mehr money and some others. Is it right? does the husband have to pay even if the wife divorces the husband?
Q: A female who is Aalima got married with a non Aalim without the parents consent (in secret) is the Nikah valid?
Q: I am computer science graduate and working in a multinational in my homeland. Throughout my life I have struggled hard to get my achievements because I am a disabled person. My left limb is artificial but Alhamdulillah I have always overcomed my disability in my life. Now I am in a very good position to support myself as well as my family. After my disability I have moved and studied with others and I also do the same jobs like other normal people. My personal analysis is that I can do Nikah which is declared a part of faith in Islam. My parents are also emphasizing upon me to marry now at the age of 29 years. I love my religion and try to follow all sunnahs Alhamdulillah. The questions I like to know is that I know a lady not in my family but relative to my elder brother's wife whose husband died in an air crash in Pakistan. This widow lady is the mother of two and also taking care of her husbands mentally disabled sister. I have intention to marry this lady as I have met her late husband once in life and due to the character Islamic personality of her late husband I wish and feel to provide the love & care to her and her children in an Islamic manner. My wishes and intentions are all within the limits of my religion but my disability is the obstacle in my powerful ambitions. I have to take this important decision in my life so everything I wish to do is according to the will of Allah. I have few questions to ask you.
Q: Please could you answer the following question I need the info to settle a dispute. I was taught that when a person gets pregnant out of wedlock and gets married to the person the child is still considered illegitimate if born fewer than 6 months after the marriage. My sister-in-law says that if the mother has 7 children altogether that it will then make the first born halal. Could this possibly be true? I battle to grasp the logic. Please help.
Q: A girl claims that I am responsible for her failed marriage and accuses me of concealing from her the truth about her in law's and husband's evil character and habits. Prior to her marriage, when asked my opinion about the family, I told her family that from my interactions with the boy and his family and from what I had heard about them, I was never given a reason to believe that they were anything but good people. They then proceeded to do their own private investigations. The girl says that I should repent and will be questioned about my actions on the Day of Reckoning. Can you please also comment on whether a boy is destined to have an unhappy marriage if his parents were separated (but have since reunited) and if his grandfather made nikah with a second wife?
Q: I got married to my husband 3 1/2 years back. On the day of my Walima I told my husband to take me to his village where he has his house and all his family members are staying. My husband had divorced his first wife hence he said he cannot take me as nobody will be happy and I cannot face my family members because recently I had divorced. Since then I refused to stay with my in laws because it hurt my feelings and I also had to face many questions from my own family as to why my husband is not taking me to his village. I settled with him in Dubai and in order to financially help my husband I started working because he could not afford to keep me with him in Dubai. After 1 1/2 year of our marriage I delivered a bay girl. Since she was too small I had to bring my mother with me. I never forced my husband to pay the expenses either for my daughter or my mother. Since myself and my mother both took care of my daughter my husband started to avoid his responsibilities. He is very fond of playing cricket and whole nights on weekends he plays cricket. His friends and relatives in Dubai are bachelors and I do not allow them to enter our house. He gets frustrated and starts fighting with me. Am I wrong on this? Things became wors during the past one year and I left my home with my mother and daughter to my home country India. Even after that my husband use to fight with me and stopped talking to me for 15 days. After waiting for 15 days I came back to Dubai and found that my house is all messed up as his friends and relatives were staying with him. He Slapped me and asked me why did I came. When I checked his laptop there were all nude photographs and dirty video clippings. We had big arguments and he threatened me with divorce and his family is supporting him in all this. In order to manage things I asked him to forgive me for all the arguments. He always says that he cannot afford to keep me with him and he wants me to go to his village and stay with his family and he shall stay in Dubai. In all this situation as per Shariah can I tell my husband that I cannot stay with his family. I really care for him and want him to leave all the bad companions and fulfill his responsibility. I always want to stay with him but the price that I will have pay to stay with him is work and share his responsibility and put my baby into babysitting because he doesn’t want my mother to stay with us. As per Shariah do I have the right not to stay with my in laws in such situation?
Q: I am fully confused about my life. I am married and my husband kidnaped me and married me, so I don't like him and I have one son also. I don't want to stay anymore with him. I am suffering a lot now. No more I want to suffer, so according to Islam what can I do? I have decided to divorce him and marry another guy because I am not happy. I want to be happy in my life so what should I do? Please help me.
Q: I m worried for a friend of mine. She is pregnant. Last week I met her. I was looking at her new mobile suddenly I saw she save some porn movies on that mobile. I was shocked. When I asked her she said O I don't know and delete that. I came home she called me next day and said that yes she watched that but now she will not watch it again. I said ok but I want to ask that this act of watching such movies can effect her unborn child? If the child is born, what kind of person he/she will be? Guide me I am very worried for her.
Q: I am really concerned. I need advice before leave without telling my husband. We have had an argument last night about leaving the kids by his ex-mother in law which he considers family. Is she family to him? He does not consider my mum family. His ex-mother in law barely practices Islam. On another occasion we had an argument. He said to me he can see I grew up wild, he insulted me I don't know what a women is like and he says if there is no respect there nothing. He slept in the lounge and today we are not talking so what should I do? I was planing on leaving because he said there is nothing.