Nikaah & Marriage Issues

Q: Is it permissible for a pregnant woman to have a 4D scan to determine the gender of her baby? The scan gives you a basic, clear picture of what the baby looks like.

Q: I have a question about marriage, because currently from what I read, it seems that whenever I hear of the word marriage I also think of the word terror and fear. This is because generally fatwas mention so many hadiths about the serve punishments of the wife for every mistake or shortcoming she does. But they never mention any hadiths like the ones mentioned in the case of the wife of being punished, cursed or anything like that regardless of what he does to her.

I even once saw a fatwa about a woman who's husband broke her arm, and the only thing they said is regarding the permissibility of hitting the wife and then they were telling the wife to be obedient and not ask for a divorce. This made me so sad, because if it was the wife doing something much smaller they would have said so much about the punishments and would have told the husband to divorce her and find someone else.

Also, on the same website they always mention that unlike the wife who must sleep in the same ooom as the husband if he wants, the husband does not have to sleep in the same room and bed as the wife, even if she tells him she wnats them to be in the same room, unless he wants to and there is no seen for his refusal even if it is for no reason. Is this true?

Also, I always see things like the husband has the right to prevent the wife from studying, working, visiting her parents and friends even if he has no reason, just because he wants to. Does he actually have the right to not let her do these things for no reason and just because he wants her to be at home the whole time? Wouldn't this harm her emotionally because she is never allowed to go out? Is there a sin on him? Is he allowed to do whatever he wants with her?

Q: I have taken a second wife - but before I had married her we had an agreement in place that I will not stay every second night with her. Now she is demanding that right. She is a revert. She said that she didn’t know how hard it was going to be a second wife. She knew from the beginning the Islamic laws of 2nd wife.

Is she valid in her argument and can she change her mind and do I have to now fulfill her right?

Q: Will hurmate-musaaharat be established between mother and son if the mother is divorced and married to some other person (who is not the father of this son) and the son is not married.

Q:

1. Person A tells person B, “I will appoint a wakeel on behalf of you who will marry you to me”. Person A agrees. Later the wakeel marries person A with person B in presence of two witnesses. Is the marriage valid?

2. Amatullah comes to know that Zaid married her with Abdullah in presence of two witnesses. But she did not appoint Zaid as her wakeel. Hearing this, Amatullah did not say a word but accepted the marriage in her heart and started treating Abdullah as her husband. Is the marriage valid between them?

Q: If the husband tells his wife, “Do not ask this from Allah Ta'ala in dua.” But the wife really wants to ask that from Allah Ta'ala. If she makes the dua, will she be sinning? It is a halal dua.

Q: Can a wife refuse her husband from having relations with her due to being very tired and in need of sleep?

Q: A proposal has come for me but my parents are not calling them so that they can come to our home. They are waiting for their call. Meanwhile, they are signing me up for an online university. As I’m unmarried, I have alot of thoughts about marriage and I cannot stop thinking about it to the point that any mention of marriage makes me feel sad that I’m not part of this union with someone.

What should I pray to Allah (Subhanahu wa Ta’ala) for? For the best solution, whether it is marriage or studying online, or should I beg Him for a good spouse?

Q: Is it permissible to go for honeymoon?

Q: Islam tells us to marry when a boy or girl becomes mature, age 12-13. But according to science, if a girl marries at 12-13 and becomes pregnant then she has to face problems like losing the new born baby, decrease in her growth of height, sugar problems, high BP, etc .

So in these cases, can we delay the marriage till the girl or boy is 19 years?

In previous days, in the 18th century and before that, did it also happen that they used to marry young and these problems had taken place (decrease in height, high BP, high sugar, risk of death, etc.).