Nikaah & Marriage Issues

Q: I got married for a second time to a woman who is 32 years younger to me. She married me with all her consent through court marriage 6 years ago and through this marriage Allah blessed us with a beautiful daughter. Recently her behaviour towards me has become very harsh and does not respect me anymore. Alhamdollilah as far as sexual part, it is quite satisfying for both of us.

My question is:

1. Have I committed a sin by marrying a woman 32 years younger than me? I am meeting all her demands successfully. Alhamdollilah by Allah’s blessings physically everything is satisfactory.

2. Can you please let me know how to guide my wife to start respecting me again?

Q: Is masturbation allowed in Islam or not? If no, why because according scientific research its a normal habit.

Q: What is the ruling on a husband who only provides for one wife and not the other even though he has 2 wives?

My husband lives with his second wife and I am the first. He pays rent where he lives and buys groceries but I see to myself. I pay my own rent and buy my own food. Is it permissible for him to do this? I am a Muslim revert and this has tested my faith to the point where I am having difficulty in believing in Islam.

Q: My brother got married to a widow who has two daughters from her previous husband. Now his wife passed away and her daughters are still with my brother. Is he mahram for those two adult daughters?

Q: Can we perform walima on the fifth day after nikah? We are doing 2 brothers walima on a single day because of financial issues... Is it permissible in Islam or not?

Q: When my husband married me 25 years ago, he didn't give me any mahr. He always says that his way of giving mehr was by paying for my accounts, which amounted to R4500.00 at that time. Can that be regarded as mahr for me?

Q: I have been living with my in laws over a year now and been having some problems with my in laws which I feel is affecting me and my husbands relationship. My mother in law does not like it when I go out with my mom or if I visit my aunts. I feel that she is controlling me. I asked my husband if we can move and he said no but I feel that if I stay any longer, problems will only get bigger.

Q: My question is regarding an illegitimate child. My ex husband and I had a child out of wedlock. I was not a Muslim but he was. Before my son was born I embraced Islam. (I was single and not married) Four months after the birth of our son we made nikah. My ex husband has been supporting us as I'm a housewife and we had another child as well. Now that we got divorced my ex husband said that he will no longer pay anything towards the "illegitimate" child. The child carries his name and surname. We were married for almost 8 years. He's also not supporting me financially during my iddat time.

Q: I am the eldest child of my family (a male), and have 4 younger sisters Alhamdulilah. I am also Alhamdulilah married and have 2 children (1 boy and 1 girl). However, when I was younger I always wanted to have brothers but never did.

Is it permissible to pray to Allah Ta'ala for Him to bless me with more son’s or only sons if I have future children inshaAllah? Before my daughter was born, I made a lot of dua to Allah Ta'ala to bless me with another son but I was still very happy Alhamdulilah to be blessed with a daughter. But I would really want my other children to be sons InshaAllah. Please advise what I should do?

Q: I've been married since 5 months. My parents made me get married against my will even when istikhara was not right but I accepted it and started this life honestly and happily with my husband.

After marriage, on the very first day I got to know that my husband is completely impotent. During these 5 months we never had intercourse. Apart from that, he doesn't even care for me either I'm sick or anything happens to me. He works in a mill, comes home in the evening, has his dinner and sleeps. That's his daily routine.

He told me that he has consulted a doctor and taking medicines for his impotency. I believed him and remained calm but there's no difference. I haven't even seen him taking any medicines.

My parents too are not supporting me. This relation is now nothing more than a useless weight on my shoulders. I'm so depressed and sick since a month.

I've heard somewhere that if spouses never have intercourse when they're living together then they're automatically divorced. Is it true?

And, can I ask for khulaa (divorce) myself now? Feelings of hatred are buillding up in me against him. I feel like I'll kill him or myself someday. May Allah Paak forgive me for such thoughts but this hatred is not is my control. What shall I do?