Nikaah & Marriage Issues

Q: Is civil marriage in a court accepted in Islam?

Q: Currently my husband and I are separated after domestic violence and assault. I did leave myself after the physical abuse. I have now requested a faskh-e-nikah from Jamiatul Ulema. I have a 3 year old daughter.

1. I understand after the divorce, that shariah gives me custody until age 9/10 provided I do not remarry. What would be a fair amount of visitation/sleep over, with her best interest in mind in accordance with shariah for my husband with regard to our daughter considering her best interest with regard to her age and that I'm staying 400km from his home.

2. When we got married my husband agreed on giving me an allowance each month. Over the last several months he stopped giving me this allowance and he said he's saving it for me. Now he refuses to give me the R55000 that I had saved with him prior to the seperation.

a. Am I entitled to this money?

b. In the 5 month separation and iddah period that will inshallah soon follow, am I entitled to receive this allowance? He has not paid any maintenance in this separation period so far except for paying my medical aid.

3. He refuses to return my jewellery that was given to me from him and his family on engagement and nikah. He says it will stay with my daughter because it has to remain in the family. He also refuses to return any clothing or any other items (laptop etc) he purchased for me and that I purchased with my allowance over the 5 years. Is he allowed to refuse returning of my things even though I have taken ownership of theses things.

Q: I am an unmarried girl of age 32. I lost my father 9 years back. I dont have a brother. My mother is not getting any suitable alliance for me. I changed my mind and started searching for a divorcee and widowed person with child also. But then also I didnt get. Hence i started thinking for a married person also. Each and every day I am facing problema and coming close to gunah. No one is understanding me. Every time they are telling me to have patience.

I got a person who is married and has a 7-8 years old daughter also and he wants to marry again. He stays about 900 km away from me and says that he will only tell their family members after gettimg married to me. However he says that he will surely come with 8 to 10 people from his society to marry me. He says that he was searching for another girl for the last 3-4 years as he has some issues with his wife. For that he has said to his in-laws also that he has problems and they should ask their daughter about it. But nor his wife or his in laws are listening or giving any attention. My mother does not agree. All of the family members are saying that I will be cursed by his first wife and I will be hurting his first wife by marrying him. Pls suggest what to do.

Its an extreme condition for me.

1. Is it ok to marry that man?

2. What does the shariat say about 2nd marriage of a man, does he destroy his first marriage by 2nd marriage?

3. What does the shariat say for the anger and curses of the 1st wife?

4. If the man is not at all ready to divorce the first wife at any cost and intends to give equal rights then is it right to say that the 2nd wife is destroying the first wife's house?

Q: I have a very complex problem. A 33 year old nmarried lady who has decided to go for artificial insemination. She is 4 months pregnant. She did not discuss her intentions with her family before taking this step. Islamically artificial insemination is not allowed. How should the family approach this situation in the community and also in the family circle?

Q: If a person fears fornication and also fears not giving his spouse her rights what would be the ruling of marriage for him?

Q: What is the ruling of marriage for the woman who understands the seriousness of the husbands rights and fears that she will not be able to give him his rights?

Q: Will the husband be sinful if he lives with his wife but does not have any physical relationship with her?

Q: Where can one find advice/books to guide women during their pregnancy? Most books that I have come across only advise from the time of birth.

Q: I am proposed to my long relation cousin. Both of our parents agreed to our marriage. Actually it is their arrangement. Also with their permission we are speaking via phone. But due to my education my parents don’t want me to do nikah right now. My question is, can I discuss only with my future wife (in shaa Allah) about mahram and give that mahram amount secretly and make this relationship to be halal? Or else am I allowed to keep one or two witnesses only and make this relationship halal? I don’t want the blame on my parents because i don’t feel like its their mistake.

Q: I have recently got married last month but our honeymoon was full of eyn (bad eye) and shytan. During the honeymoon my wife would talk and have open conversations with taxi drivers and walk ahead of me and always on her phone and we had a fight where I lightly slapped her on the side of her head. Also she did not allow me to have sex with her for the last 7 days of the honeymoon. She did not respect me and was very rude in the manner she spoke to me in and 2 nights she slept in a different room! She would always be on her phone and not talk to me I told her many times I don't like this but she said I don't care! There have been soooo many issues during this time! She has disrespected me telling me that I do not want your money and take ur presents back!

Before the honeymoon she had asked for divorce 4 times because I contact her too much call and text too much. When she went home she told her family about me slapping her and her family obviously went crazy n want divorce now but it's still debatable!!

So I am now in a situation where there is another lady I loved before this arranged marriage and I wish to marry her. Do I need by islam to confirm with the first wife or should I wait till I'm divorced?? I want to know what to do and what is halal and what is haram.