Nikaah & Marriage Issues

Court marriage

Q: Im not very well learned, I just know basics. I would like to know if it is permissible for a Muslim woman to marry a christian man first in court then a while after the man will embrace Islam then get married via shariah? I would appreciate if you can explain in depth if possible so that I can relay your message to the parties involved the proper way.

Providing for one's father's new wife and her children

Q: My father has married a young woman who has brought three young children with her and a grandson. My father does not work and he is almost seventy now. He has no pension whatsoever and his only source of income is the money me and my siblings give him. This is his third marriage. The first was to mother who passed away, he got divorced in the second marriage and he was living with my elder sister until now. Then he got married and decided to move into the unfinished house we were building for him. The question is, me and my siblings do not have well paying jobs and still we tried our best to care for him but now he has brought a woman and 4 children that will need support from him. As a Muslim, is it my duty to care for his family? It was already hard to care for him alone and just how are we going to manage taking care of 6 people including him and his wife? Will Allah Ta'ala be angry with us? Because when we send him money now its never enough and we also have our own lives to care for.

Touching one's mother after masturbating

Q: I have a question with regards to hurmut mussaharah. Unfortunately, I was watching porn/masturbating one evening, where suddenly my mother entered the room. Although I did not expose myself in anyway, I was greeted and touched whilst I was still in an excited state from the haram I did. I remember feeling something inappropriate and trying my best to suppress the feeling, although I have no such feelings at all normally (sorry for going into detail, but I remember I still had an erection before they entered and there was a feeling after the touch which was out of my control). I also remember warmth from the touch. Has hurmut mussaharah taken place? Please advise me what to do.

Taking a second wife

Q: I have two questions to ask A) If a muslim husband if found to have had illegal sex with a christian woman as he fell in love with her, can his wife permit and support the woman to change her religion to islam and marry him? B)A wife wants to do sterility surgery in order to stop delivery as she has 3 little kids. But her husband did not permit her to do so. After that the husband chooses a second wife and abstains from sex with the first wife so that they wont have kids anymore. Whats the ruling regarding such a case in Islam?