Nikaah & Marriage Issues

Q: Is is it allowed for the bride and groom to sit in seclusion before nikaah?

Q: Can I marry without the concent of my parents and will it harm me in the future and hereafter?

Q: Can one request as mahr that the husband will never marry another wife while he is married to her?

Q: Please be aware, I know of the rule that if a man divorces his wife three separate occasions she is not halaal for him until she genuinely marries someone else and it does not work out). I got married to my ex husband in 2009, we had a child in 2011. I was very much in love with him, he prayed and still prays 5 times a day since he reverted in 2009 and is very very in Deen since) shaytaan took over me and I stopped my salaah and started sinning, I met another guy and then I asked my husband for divorce (I am aware of what I have done and ask Allah for forgiveness and how shameful this is I understand). After the divorce (3 divorces, three separate occasions), I regretted it so
much and just wanted to get back with him. However, I was with this guy and told him I do no love you and he said it does not matter, we will get married and things will get better. 

He knew I did not love him, I did have feelings for him and liked him a lot as we were very close and talked everyday all day. Before I got married to him,  it was in my mind that most likely it will not work out and I want to get back with my ex husband but I did not fake the nikkah because on the day of nikkah I cried and though wow I'm married and never had a doubt about my nikkah and me and him always spoke and said '' This isn't sin anymore '' A few weeks after, I saw texts and this man talking to other girls and saying rude things that he wants to sleep with them and I thought he was completely someone different. I asked him for a divorce and he gave me the divorce yesterday.

I did istikhara asking is my nikkah valid or not. Before he divorced me and sheikhs told me to ignore the dreams and the only strong feeling I got from istikhara was that It was not valid (but at the same time I got answers from some scholars and they had all told me it is valid. I am still not convinced because I have read online that any intention of marrying your ex whilst your marrying your current husband your nikkah will be invalid. 

At the nikkah there was my dad, the groom, two male witnesses from his side and the Imaam. Please refer me if you can help but I would really appreciate it if you could help. Is my nikkah valid even though I had in my mind that one day I want to get back with my my ex or is it invalid?

Q: Walimah is preferable after sharing the bed (without any Shar'iee restrictions) or preferable after nikaah?

Q: Say if a mahr was stipulated that the man must teach his wife quraan during the marriage and before he taught her quraan he wants to marry another woman. Must he first finish teaching his first wife because that was her mahr before he marries another or can he marry already?

Q: Is it permissible to me to ask for 1 date for my mahr? I would like to ask my fiancee to go to the poorest date seller, ask him how
much 1 kg of dates cost (f.e. 10 Dinar) and ask him how many family member he has (f.e. with him included there are 6 people living with him) so my fiancee should multiply the cost of 1kg of dates with the family members (inc. the date seller). f.e. 60 Dinars. So I want my fiancee to pay the date seller 60 Dinars, but take only 1 Date as my mahr and leave the others to the date seller as a sadaqa. I would like to eat the date with my fiancee's mother and my mother, and plant it to a tree (in shaa allah). I also would ask (as part of my mahr) for the surah mulk to get recited by him from his heart.

Is this permissible that he give me this 1 date + reciting one surah under such extraordinary circumstances? Or is the mahr void if I just ask for that?

A: My wife is 23 weeks pregnant and we have just been advised by two specialists that:

- The heart of the foetus is extremely enlarged such that it is filling up the entire width of the chest cavity (the normal ratio is 60% of the cavity. In this case, its wall to wall)

- The right ventricle valve is deformed and not closing, which is resulting in back flow of blood back into the right atrium (instead of towards the lungs as it should be)

- The pulmonary arteries are half the diameter that they should be at this stage of development, meaning that there is insufficient blood flow to the lungs.

- As the heart is so large, the lungs are severely under-developed, and they are uncertain how these will hold up at the time of birth

- The specialists are certain that any form of operation post birth will not be corrective, and whatever they do may only prolong the condition of the newborn for a short period.

In summary, their prognosis is very poor, such that they are of the opinion that the foetus is likely to suffer heart failure even before reaching full term. In the event that it does reach full term, it will require immediate intensive care and surgery to re-direct blood flow away from the left side of the heart directly towards the lungs, implying that the newborn will only be surviving by using one side of the heart. This in itself, they believe, will not last long as the heart cannot sustain this in any meaningful manner.

International research (performed by myself) confirms their assessment and prognoses that death before full term is very likely, and if not, death within 3-4 weeks after birth should be expected.

At this stage, they cannot determine the impact that the heart enlargement and pulmonary arteries under-development, is having on the other organs in the body, except to say that, in their opinions, the condition of the foetus will only get worse and will not be compatible with life. 

Notwithstanding the 120 day 'rooh entering the body' consensus, would it be Islamically permissible (or not) to terminate the pregnancy?