Nikaah & Marriage Issues

Mahar

Q: I want to ask about Haqmehar. What is prompt and what is deferred Mahar? And if the word "Ind-ul-talb"which means "on demand" is written on Nikahnama along with deferred mahar. If the husband has paid prompt dower at the time of marriage and then abandon the wife after some months and the wife due to abandonment by husband for more than 2 years is demanding her deferred and ind-ul-talb haq mahar then what are islamic rules about it?

Consulting one's parents with regards to nikaah

Q: I have got to know a boy from my town and we both have fallen for each other. I performed salaahtul istikhara and my dreams where positive. However his parents do not approve of me. I have been modern but I try hard to live my life Islamically. He has performed istikhara salaah as well but didn't have any dreams. We really want to make our relationship halaal. What should we do?

Parents forcing a girl to get married

Q:

  1. A girl was forced to accept a boy for Nikah. She was threatened to be killed by her parents if she refused and thus she accepted verbally and in writing against her will. She was not happy about the boy. After the Nikah she was forced to go live with him. After some time living with him she is still not happy about him. Was the Nikah valid? If not, then was all the time that was spent together (seclusion, talking, touching, etc...) considered sinful on both the boy and the girl? What should the girl do in this situation now? Is it Wajib for her to separate from him? What should the boy do if he finds out now that the girl was forced into the Nikah against her will?
  2. In another scenario the girl was not threatened to be killed, but instead she was pressured by her parents and other relatives and she thus accepted verbally and in writing under their pressure to make them happy. However she herself was not happy with the Nikah. After the Nikah she was pressured to go live with him. After some time living with him she is still not happy about him. Was the Nikah valid? If not, then was all the time that was spent together (seclusion, talking, touching, etc...) considered sinful on both the boy and the girl? What should the girl do in this situation now? Is it Wajib for her to separate from him? What should the boy do if he finds out now that the girl was pressured into the Nikah and she is not happy with him?
  3. If in scenario 1 the girl becomes happy with the boy after living with him for some time is the original Nikah still valid? Do they have to re-do the Nikah?
  4. If in scenario 2 the girl becomes happy with the boy after living with him for some time is the original Nikah still valid? Do they have to re-do the Nikah?

Marrying a Shia

Q: A friend of mines had a question about marrying a person who is a shia and willing to follow and raise the children as Sunni:

My question is that I want to marry this girl but she is Shia, if the girl is willing to marry me, raise our family and follow the Sunni way as my parents want is it gunaah or forbidden to marry a Shia if they do not convert? Her parents would accept me as a Sunni they just would not want her to convert but she will follow the Sunni way and also raise our chidlren sunni. Please keep in mind we have not talked to our parents about this situation yet and please give me some guidance as I do not want to go against anyone's parents. The only thing we have done so far is complete the isthikara which came out good alhumdulillah.

I did Istikhara for 7 days:

Istikhara: first night dream: He saw in his dream he was taking a picture of the girl and his family together like a group photo.

On the fifth night he did istikhara he had a dream where he saw lots of trees and her in a white shalwr kameez coming to his house accompanied by her little brother.

1. Is it gunna or forbidden to marry a Shia if they do not convert?

2. Is their a conversion process from Shia to Sunni? What does a Shia person have to do to become Sunni?