Nikaah & Marriage Issues

Q: I would like to find out whether a water birth is permissible or not, also the lady is allowed to wear a loose top? Please clarify.

Q: Can you tell me does the following count as hurmut musahara:

If say a man is sitting in a car where someone whom hurmut musahara can happen with is sitting next to him or he is lying his head on their lap, as an example, he is a young adult and is ill. Now he gets an erection due to him having thoughts of other women or seeing other women on tv or on the streets whom marriage is allowed for him. The erection is NOT at all due to the person whom hurmut musahara can happen with being next to him nor is there any lust in his heart on the person nor is his intention of any kind on the person whom hurmut musarhara can happen with, not in the slightest but erection only happens due to him thinking of other women or seeing other women whom he can marry. But due to sitting in a car and the person is sitting next to him or his head in their lap some of his body parts like legs is touching them. Does this count?

Also Can Hurmut Musahara happen between a man and his son?

Q: What is the sunnah method and dua'a for the father to read for the daughter before the daughter leaves the home (in marriage)? Is there anything regarding the sprinkling of water on the daughter's forehead by the father? Furthermore, is the dua'a read by the father, the same dua'a the husband should read for his wife?

Q: My friend Zaid's father Bakr died long back so his mother Fathima married another man Haamid. Now Haamid was also married before and his wife Ruqayyah died. In short both Fathima and Haamid are widow. This man Haamid had one daughter Aaisha with his first wife Ruqayyah. Now my friend zaid is going to marry this girl Aaisha. Is this marrage valid or haram?

Q: I have been married for two years. My husband converted to Islam two years back. My question is if he doesn't pray or fast, am I responsible for his behavior? Will I be punished if he doesn't believe in Islam any more? What should I do?

Q: If the second wife gives up her nights and accepts less financial support as she is by the means to. She has verbally stated this to her husband. She is happy to be in the protection of marriage and her husband is very good to her. Is the husband committing a wrong because he is not equal?

Q: I am a new muslim and am a bit confused about certain issues concerning intercourse with one's wife. I have read fatwas and talked to recognised scholars, but I am still confused. First of all, I know that masturbating alone is haram, but what is if the spouses are not together due to travelling and while fantasizing of the spouse they touch the chest, merely to fantasize, not touching his genitals? Furthermore, to what extent is a partner allowed to touch himself/herself during intercourse? Is it true that during foreplay or intercourse I am not at all allowed to rub/touch my penis in her presence, and she is not allowed to enter her fingers in her vagina or stimulate the surroundings in my presence (from stimulating during foreplay to finishing off after sex or during menses)? If this is the case, does this refer only to the main sexual organs (penis and vagina opening) or are we also not allowed to stimulate our other parts like chests, prostata, clitoris, body, etc.? If we are allowed, does this count only during penetrition/intercourse or during the whole act of sex (during foreplay, can each partner touch his/her permissible parts to arouse himself/herself or arouse the partner; can a woman suck, lick her breasts to arouse herself and as a pleasure for her husband). Secondly, sheikh mohammad bin adam al kawthari, permits the use of toys under certain conditions, such as not using it on the main genitals (penis and vagina opening) to resemble masturbation; thus is there anything wrong with wearing a massage (vibrating) glove during mutual masturbation on the main privat parts and intercourse, as it is the hand one is using and not a toy? Can one use it on one's own permissible body parts (not to masturbate in case this is forbidden, see question 1). I prefer it as it prevents touching vaginal fluids by hand and does not resemble a male genital. Thirdly, if my wife wants me to spank her during intercourse, either by using my hand or a stick, is this allowed and to what extent? Not with the intention of resembling non-muslim habits or hurting her, merely because it arouses her and myself. Fourthly, as my wife has an African origin, her hair is not as easy to handle as smoothe hair. Thus is it allowed for her to wear a wig or extensions only for me during intercourse? Could you explain in detail as I have read different opinions (from permission to prohibition and curse by ALLAH).

Q: Is termination of pregnancy permissible? if yes, in what circumstances is it allowed and not allowed? As a medical practitioner, one is allowed to refuse to perform an abortion. However, one is required to refer the patient to where it could be performed. Is this allowed?

Q: Is a major sin for a couple to look at the private parts of each other?