Nikaah & Marriage Issues

Q: Is marring one's mothers cousin allowed in Islam? I am a IT Employee working in an MNC. I have a question and seeking your guidance under the light of the Hadith. There is a girl in my family and she is my mothers cousin sister. I stay in a different city as I have job there. I some times chat with her over the internet. Just a very normal chat like "How are you & every one at home?" "What's going on? This and that." Our family know that we chat. Once I asked her about her marriage proposals. She said that many people come to see but no one is selecting her. Every one is taking out some reason or the other for rejection. I went to an IT conference. There was a topic "Why are Girls not getting married?” The reasons and the worries of the parents were explained. We were encouraged to move Forward and do some thing for the sake of Allah. Allah will reward you for what you do. I decided to marry her and wanted to tell my parents, but before that I wanted to ask the girl. She took some time and she also agreed. So I told to my parents and my parents were ok with it. She also told the same to her parents. This has became a very big issue now because of which there are disputes in my family. I want to know if what I did was correct or wrong and what should I do now?

Q: I intend marrying a girl with diabetes. She is Deeni inclined. What is your advise regarding this matter?

Q: What is the correct shar'iee ruling regarding the amount of time in days and nights a man should spend with his wives and from what time to what time does it start? After asr till fajr or after esha till fajr and how does he divide his time during the day?

Q: Respected Ulama, trough the grace of Allah all mighty, my wife has found out that she is pregnant. We are most grateful to Allah, and at the same time we do not want to displease Allah by doing things the wrong way. My question firstly is: Is there any law about a time period were one should not tell others about the pregnancy? Secondly if you can please give some targheeb on what sunnah practices should be carried out during the pregnancy and at the time of birth and the first few weeks? May Allah reward you plenty fold and make your task an easy one.

Q: We had an affair and had an illegitimate daughter from that affair. After that we got married. Now my daughter is 20 years old. She does not know anything about this and she is going to marry soon. My question is can I be the Wali (guardian) to my daughter? If not who can be the Wali?

Q: Is it permissible for women to remain alone in their homes in order to allow their husbands to go out in the path of Allah (jamaat) or on business trips, etc. Please explain the correct Shar'iee ruling?

Q: Asalaamu Alaykum. I am married for 5 years, for the first three years, I would receive an allowance from my husband. Now for almost two years, he doesn't give me a cent, and always complains that he has many debts to pay. I feel that the debts are his own doing and that I am being cheated off my allowance so that he can pay his debts. It gets so bad sometimes that if I need a little money, I have to borrow from the neighbour as he sternly refuses to give me money for myself. With regards to groceries, he buys the necessary items. But I'm talking about money for my personal use. Is it right for him to do this?

Q: Please advise wether it is permissible if a man or woman masturbates himself/herself whilst they are both having foreplay?

Q: Is it permissible for a man to insert his finger in his wifes vagina while she is in the state of haidh?

Q: I am soon to be married, insha-Allah. I want to know how to perform the wedding in accordance to the sunnah.

1. What is the sunnah mahr and the amount in South African Rands?

2. What is the Shar'ee status of having a wedding and calling people?

3. When is the sunnat time for having the walimah? Does khalwah (in referance to the walimah) refer to seclusion only or does one have to have intercourse?