Nikaah & Marriage Issues

Q: I have a problem (of making ghusal farz by hands) for the last 5 years. I have tried my best to leave it. Once, I have been able to leave it for 3 months but after that I was caught by it again. I have asked forgiveness every time from Almighty Allah and alhmdulillah He has blessed me every time, but I couldnt leave the sin.

I am average in ibadaat. Sometimes I perform salaah 5 times a day for a month or few months and sometimes I leave it out for a few days and sometimes I dodge a few prayers.

Kindly tell me a simple and easy solution to leave out this sin. 

Q:

1. What is tahneek in Islam?

2. What are all the Islamic rituals to be performed after the birth of a baby boy or baby girl?

3. What about honey drops touching the lips or tongue of a newborn?

4. If a baby boy is born then when can circumcision be performed?

5. What aqeeqa will be given for a baby girl? 

Q: If a child is born out of wedlock (through zina), will he be attributed to the mother or the biological father? The biological father is pleased to take him as his own child and give him his surname. Is he the responsibility of the biological father and will the biological father have any rights over him? What is the shar'ee ruling in regard to a child born out of wedlock?

Q: When people in my family get married, they normally make a big thing with the groom. They splash him and throw food on him and make a big noise. This is before the nikaah. When he gets married then they trouble the couple and on the first night they peep and other things.

Would this be emulating kuffaar? I hate participating in this, but they force me to and get angry when I don’t participate and really give it to me. How should I combat this?

Q: Is it fine for a father to like his son more than his daughters and tell them that they are girls and they are the ones who supposed to do house chores. They are men and they don't need to do that.

Is it right for a father to be arrogant of being a man by gender which has been gifted by Allah? Is it that men are superior to women?

Q: If a man has an illegitimate child from an unmarried wonan, what should he do to protect the honour of the child?

Q: If a father touches the bare skin of his step daughter with lust in the dark because he thought that it was his wife, but when he finds out that it was his step daughter, he moves away immediately. Will hurmat musaaharah be established?

Q: If I marry a second wife while I am in financial difficulty? Can I treat each wife according to my financial capacity? I will request both of them to accept my financial position. Can I marry a second wife with her consent of supporting her with only a monthly budget of 20000 rupees.

Q: Wouldn't it be permissible for a husband to check his wife's phone and her messages in WhatsApp and social media? I have seen some Ulama say it is not permissible because it is her private interactions. But I was confused about what they said. How else can you ensure that your wife is not falling into something bad? Isn't it like checking your child's phone?