Nikaah & Marriage Issues

Prerequisite for walimah to take place

Q: Please can mufti advise on the following:

1. In Sha Allah I’m getting married soon, and I would like to know what are the prerequisites for a walimah to take place ? Does the nikaah have to be physically consummated?

2. If nikaah takes place after asr and then the couple spends some time in seclusion and then thereafter a little while later the walimah takes place, is this incorrect ?

3. Will the nikaah and walimah be invalid if the marriage isn’t physically consummated? Please also can mufti clarify what consummation entails if physical consummation isn’t necessary, e.g. how long does the couple need to spend together in seclusion.

Providing one's wife with separate quarters

Q: I am in a little confusion. I can't make up my mind. My in laws are visiting us for 3 months that includes my sister in law and father in law. My mother in law had passed away. My husband wants me to live in the same house with my brother in law and his wife along his father and sister. We will have our private rooms but will share the kitchen and lounge. I am not willing to live in the same house as I think its against my privacy. I am demanding to provide me a separate home. Am I wrong here? Or saying this to my husband is wrong?

Hurmat-e-musaaharah

Q: I have some questions about hurmat musaharah.

1. Is it established between a mother and daughter?

2. Is it established if one has wet dreams about incest or a sexual dream that has mahrams?

3. Is hurmat cancelled if parents remarry and sincere repentance is made? 

4. Lust is a strong sexual desire. If I don't feel a strong desire but I feel some type of lustful feeling that I try my best to control inside my heart at the time of touching, is this hurmat musaharah?