Nikaah & Marriage Issues

Q:

1. Is it recommended or even mandatory that the woman orgasms during a sexual relationship with her husband.

2. If the husband has reached orgasm, is it mandatory or recommended to wait until the woman has her orgasm and then stop the sexual relationship.

3. For me, once I reach my orgasm (the sperm is out) I cannot continue the sexual activity, but my wife tells me that it is her right to have an orgasm also. The result is that all these words and attitudes have broken the desire for my wife. I do not want to touch my wife because I have a disgust in me. I have the impression that the roles are reversed, although I have always been indulgent in sex with my wife.

All the more her sexual appetite is much greater than mine, please advise us.

Q: I'm really worried if I committed a sin. Yesterday when I was doing foreplay with my wife, I tried fingering and I saw a little pinkish color on my finger. My wife immediately went to the washroom and checked whether her periods started or not. She confirmed that her periods haven't started so I had sex with her the same night. But today her periods started. I'm worried whether that pinkish color was period blood. Had I committed a sin. Please tell me what I have to do.

Q: I touched a woman with lust sometime ago and I now wish to marry her daughter. Is it permissible for me to marry her daughter, or is hurmat-e-musaaharah established due to the touching? Can you explain to me, does hurmat-e-musaaharah become established by merely touching a woman with lust or is it necessary for one to have an erection? Further, what is the sign of lust in a male and female?

Q: I would like to know if I could talk to a non mahram for the purpose of a secret marriage as my first wife will not agree to my 2nd marriage and is asking for a divorce if I marry a 2nd wife so hence i am considering a 2nd marriage.

Q: Is it permissible for a lady to only agree to marry a man if he accepts that he will not get second wife?

Q: From the start of my early life I had never been focused on any aim and still now I am regretting it why I am not clear about my aim. I am feeling like a burden on this earth. I never wanted to be engaged before marriage. After my BS honors I got engaged, to whom I got engaged he is totally of a different chemistry life style. He always wanted to be bold in our relationship whereas I believed in intimacy after marriage.

A lot of misunderstandings and quarrels occurred between us. Just before nikah, I was totally blamed for not being expressive in showing my feelings or whatever. He always wanted a bold relationship, bold talks whereas I denied it just because I knew its not allowed in Islam. To save this relationship and respect of my parents I totally vanished my personality, my own resemblance. I have done my mphill but still I feel nothing to myself.

Why every time girls have to shut their mind soul and feelings even after nikah (rukhsti is in coming Nov) he wants to have full intimacy. I know it is allowed after nikah when he come to visit me but I want to have all this after rukhsati. 

Q: I want to know a fatwa on zina. If a girl do zina once in her life before engagement with someone else and seeks forgiveness from Allah and after sometime she got engaged with a person who did not do zina in his entire life and the girl tells her fiance that she did zina mistakenly. Now she seeks forgiveness since she did this sin. What is the order of shariah about this? Is the nikah halal or haram with that girl?

Q: I touched my mom with lust and if hurmat-e-musahara occurred, now after true tauba and promise that I will not do the sin again, can I go for Hajj with my mom?

Q: If I touched my mom with lust and hurmat-e-musaahara occurred, now I repented a lot and promise to Allah that I will never do it again.

1. Is my mom still a mahram for me, and do we still have the relationship of "son and mom" ?

2. Do I still have the relationship of "father and son" with my father?

Q: I am married for 6 years and want to have clarity on some topics which will sound disgusting but if I have clear and right information about the same I will carry on forward.

1. In Islam, is it allowed to see, rub, caress, kiss one's wifes anus after cleaning that area and making sure nothing unhygienic is there.

2. Since anal sex is haraam, can I massage/rub with my finger on my wifes anus. I wont be doing any penetration with hand/penis.

3. Can I have sex with my wife in the bathroom and kitchen or any other place in my home.