Nikaah & Marriage Issues

Q:

1. Is there equality in marriage between a Gujarati boy and a Pashtun girl?

2. Is there equality in lineage between Gujaratis and Pashtuns?

Q: I am married and five weeks pregnant. I have a two year old son. I don't want the new baby as I am financially unstable and I am planning to move abroad. The new child will cause us many troubles and we will face many problems there as well as here in Pakistan. Please can you allow me to abort?

Q:

1. Is there any ruling in Islam regarding population control. Nowadays there is a drum beating of population explosion that the earth cannot sustain more than 10 billion people. Also due to sanction countries like Iran, North Korea, Yemen, etc. that cant provide education and health to all. Please help explain what is the way forward if population control via family planning is not an option?

2. Can the couple decide that we will limit our offspring and is that Islamically correct?

Q: Is it better to have more than one wife in islam? As in Quran the ayat starts with marrying two or three or four. If they cannot be just to more than one, only then they should marry one. And our Prophet and all the Sahabah (as far I know) had more than one wife. So is it more appreciated in Islam to have more than one wife?

Q: I heard that looking at the 'farj e daakhil' of a woman establishes hurmat musaaharat. What is meant by 'farj e daakhil' ?

Q: How many times does a girl have to give verbal consent for nikaah? Is there a specific number in shariah?

Q: How should a wife's relationship be with her husband? To what extent should she love and respect her husband?

I have read somewhere that a man and womans relation should be limited because it harms one's iman the most. I don't remember exactly, but it was something like that.

In my life I feel like sometimes my thinking only rotates around him and his little ignorance or bad behaviour or telling me to improve myself (such as hair, weight, accent, etc.) these things make me so sad that I feel difficulty in breathing. I remain sad for a long time and I cannot concentrate in something. I constantly keep saying that he is bored with me or I am not pretty or he doesn't love me, etc. I know I shouldn't do that. But what should I do when I feel bad that my heart starts to ache? 

Q: I have an adopted girl (minor). I want to perform my Nikah with her. How can that be done as usually its the guardian that would do this but I am the guardian.

Q:

1. I have a bedroom in which I sleep with my 3 year old daughter. Theres lots of space in my room but my husband does not sleep in the same room as me. Do u think he should sleep in the same room or is it ok for him to sleep seperate from me?

2. Is it wrong for both of us to sleep in one bed as we have children aged 18 to 3 years?

3. Is it wrong for my children to see us sleeping in one bed?

Q: I was forced to marry a person whom I did not like. I told my mother many times that I dont want to marry this person but my family was not willing to call off the marriage. One night before the nikah I consumed sleeping pills with intention of commuting suicide (Astagfirulkah). The next day I was under the influence of medicine and I don’t remember anything. During my subconscious state my nikah was done with the boy. I was not in my complete senses. I informed my husband about the suicidal step that I have taken and that I don’t want to live with him. Is this Nikah valid as my consent was not given in complete consciousness.