Nikaah & Marriage Issues

Disobeying the husband

Q: Are women like slaves of their husband in Islam? I have come across some writings where some quotations were mentioned supporting this. One quotation was on Umar (radhiyallahu anhu). It was something that women are like slaves of their husbands. So be careful whom you are giving your daugter to as a slave. Is it true?

In many places I have read that the hoors are getting angry on a wife who is upsetting the husband or disobeying him and they curse the wife. Are these all true? Are all women born slaves of men? 

Imaam calling the girl's father by his second name while performing a nikaah

Q: My name is Muhammad Yaseen s/o Muhammad Arif and my wife's name is Urooj d/o Fazal Ahmed. We Got Married in Makkah alhamdullilah. When the imam was offering our nikkah ceremony, he asked me: Muhammad Yaseen s/o Muhammad Arif, would you like to marry Urooj Fazal d/o Ahmed Urooj's Father name is Fazal Ahmed and Imam said, Urooj Fazal d/o Ahmed, so I just wanted to ask if our nikah is accepted?

Husband not fulfilling the wife's desires

Q: I have been married for seven and half years now. I have a child, a son, 6 years of age. I want another child but my husband doesn't seem to be interested at all. He hasn't been trying for a baby or even having any kind of physical contact with me for almost two years. I want to know if its valid for a husband to stay away from his wife for that long? What about the wife's desires? If a woman is restricted to obey her husband and never to say NO, why a husband is not bound to take care of his wife's feelings?

To let you know, there are no bad issues between us, no fights, everything is normal between us. I feel im just here to take care of the house and my kid, I feel I'm a maid not a wife.