Nikaah & Marriage Issues

Q: Is this ruling correct:

Question: We have a small community in the country I live in, and weddings are an excellent opportunity to come together and meet (new) people, as everyone lives far away from each other, especially regarding marriage purposes (the potential of finding a suitable partner amongst the crowd).

Recently, two people from our community got married after someone had contacted them at a wedding they had both attended (they didn’t know about each other’s existence beforehand).

Weddings with no music rarely ever take place, sadly enough. I’d have to miss out on all of them otherwise. Thus, from this perspective (marriage purposes), would it be permissible to attend a wedding with music playing in the background?

Answer:

In the Name of Allah, the Most Merciful and Compassionate

Yes. It is permissible to attend a wedding even though they play music in the background.

Background Versus Primary Activity

The ruling here revolves around the central issue, the wedding ceremony. Wedding ceremonies are permissible. The presence of music in the ceremony is a secondary characteristic. This secondary characteristic does not affect the fundamental permissibility of the wedding, according to the following axiom:

“Subsidiaries are subsidiary and are not given their own rulings.” [Ibn Nujaym, al-Ashbah wa al-Nazair]

If any impermissible actions become the focal point of the event, such as mixed-gender dancing or the like-continued involvement in the wedding at this point is impermissible. [Ibn ‘Abidin, Radd al-Muhtar]

Commanding the Good

If the music’s content is impermissible, then it is obligatory to advise those in charge of the ceremony to offer an acceptable alternative if there is a hope that your advice will result in change.

This is especially true and important for anyone who is an example or role model. [Nahlawi, Durar al-Mubaha]

The Permissible is Plenty

As Muslims, is it of central importance to know what Allah Most High permits and prohibits before taking on any endeavor, such as holding a wedding ceremony? Our plans for the ceremony must be through the lens of that knowledge.

There are many permissible avenues of entertainment that one can use for the wedding. This allows people to enjoy their time, and no one is turning away from the obedience of Allah in the meantime.

Q: What’s the maslah pertaining to the question “will you marry me”?

I learnt a while ago that whether it was done in a school play for example and the boy had to ask the girl or vice versa “will you marry me” and she said yes, they are married? What would be the maslah and how would the marriage be terminated?

What would happen if it happened on WhatsApp or in private? Would they still be married? And how would the marriage be terminated?

What would be the maslah if the people don’t know about the maslah of getting married in this way and they did it? I have a friend who went out with a group of friends and this girl asked him will you marry me and he said ya I will and they were with other friends? Are they married and what would be the next step?

Q: Should someone accept their son’s illegals child and child’s mother. The son’s point of view that he is responsible of his deeds. Our point of view is that we will never accept the child and his mom as she is not his legal wife so only this behalf that she is child’s mother we can’t accept. We think that if we will accept them then we will part of his haraam action. Are we right or wrong?

Q: One of my acquaintance curses his daughter with haraam animal (pig) whenever he is angry or in rage. Kindly explain what are the precautions to be taken and what consequences can be held against that person in the eyes of Allah!

Q: According to the Faqahaa, is marrying more than one wive amongst sunnat because of which a person will get rewarded? (meaning not aadiya) Especially in today's time, by doing this Mubarak action the love of it will enter peoples hearts and the wrong belief that it's naoothobillah not right will go.

Q: I'm a taalibul 'ilm (studying Dars-e-Nizaami). I have no objections with what is said, but I'd merely like a clarification and an explanation if possible.

I came across the following question on Muftionline: https://muftionline.co.za/node/33372

At the bottom, as a note, Hadhrat mentions, "The above ruling applies to the case where the boy and girl are both non-Arabs and both their parents and grandparents are born Muslims (i.e. they are not converts)."

Q: Can a Muslim woman marry a Muslim man of another caste or ethnicity/nationality where there are differences in cultures and thoughts.

Q: If a woman becomes a murtadd (apostate) with the intention of breaking her nikaah (marriage), will her nikaah break?

Q: I would like to know about the prayer that the bridegroom and bride pray together after nikah and before consuming their marriage. How is it performed and why? I will be getting married soon and have heard about this from an old person and he has not been able to give me more details. All the others to whom I have asked, no one knows about it.