Nikaah & Marriage Issues

Q: Can a Muslim use condoms after his marriage?

Q: I have a question regarding nikah. If we do nikaah during engagement. Due to some reasons girl is asking divorce before the actual marriage function. She didn't come to our house. Can you please answer whether they will pay back the mehar and other things which we gave to the girl during engagement on nikaah.

Q: Is it permissible for a husband to pleasure his wife while she is on her periods?

Q: We learn that Nabi (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) married Hazrath Ayesha (Radiyallahu Anha) at a very young age. Is this something that was limited to Nabi (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) or that era, or is it permissible for us to also make Nikah with a girl who is not baaligh? We also learn that Hazrath Ayesha (Radiyallahu Anaha) only went to live with Nabi (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) later. Was this because Nabi (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) was waiting for Hazrath Ayesha (Radiyallahu Anha) to become baaligh before Hazrath Ayesha (Radiyallahu Anha) came to live with Nabi (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam)?

Q: My husband has a very high sex drive. He wants frequent sex. Almost four times a week. Can I refuse him when I'm tired or not in the mood.

Q: Is it haraam to have sex with husband or wife while he or she is asleep?

Q: Can we use contraceptives, if yes what methods?

Q: I write to seek truth and guidance. Eight years ago at the age of 18, I met a 25 year old Muslim man and we entered into a serious relationship. Three months later I converted to Islam. We continued the relationship still, including zina. When we thought about marriage, both first marriages, we met with a sheikh to discuss an Islamic marriage, where he advised us to stay away from each other and to seek forgiveness and repentance before entering marriage. Unfortunately we did not comply, continuing sins even days before we preformed an Islamic marriage contract. Neither he nor I repented, separated, or observed a waiting period to see if pregnancy was apparent before the contract was made. Also, as a convert, I did not have a Wali when we did the marriage contract, and the actual contract states "herself", as I was my own Wali. Now we have been together since and just gave birth to our second son. I am asking to know if our marriage is valid or invalid (batil), and also the status of our two children if they are legitimate or not and can inherit from their father according to Islam. Also where do I stand from his family, including his brothers and his father, if they are or ever were relatives of mine if the marriage never existed or is invalid and are they related to our two children in any way if invalid. Please advise.

Q: My husband has some mustabah money which he earned from his job. My question is can I use that money as a loan from my husband without him knowing? I will give him back. Actually I am need of money but I cannot ask my husband because he is a very calculative man and I am sure he will never give me.

Q: I have observed in many countries that people marry and stay with their wives for a month or two and then they go to other countries for work and they come back to their wives after two or three years for a month or two and then again go back. My question is that is this the correct way of spending life with family especially wives? Is this the correct way of spending a married life according to Islam? Please answer my question to clear my concept about this issue.