Nikaah & Marriage Issues

Q: I am really concerned. I need advice before leave without telling my husband. We have had an argument last night about leaving the kids by his ex-mother in law which he considers family. Is she family to him? He does not consider my mum family. His ex-mother in law barely practices Islam. On another occasion we had an argument. He said to me he can see I grew up wild, he insulted me I don't know what a women is like and he says if there is no respect there nothing. He slept in the lounge and today we are not talking so what should I do? I was planing on leaving because he said there is nothing.

Q: I am asking this question on behalf of my sister. She got married from two years now and alhamdulillah she is blessed with a girl baby. The problem is she was given 110 ounce of gold as maher. Her father in law is a bad person who has even tried to break their relationship for his personal intrest. In fact he has ego problem. Now he is holding the maher and says its given from my earnings not his sons. My brother in law is now trying to move from house but his father is not helping him financially though he is rich. Kindly let me know what is the status of maher in this situation. 

Q: A lady's husband passes away. After some years she remarries. Does the father of her late husband remain Mahram for her?

Q: I am engaged to the daughter of the sister of my father. In my child hood, mother of my father used to put her breast nipple in my mouth, whenever I cried. She was old then and had no milk in her breast. What I want to ask is it halal to marry with my cousin now?

Q: Normally a girl knows about her periods and if a girl tells her mom that she is not going to have her periods and the mom sets the date for the wedding but on the day of the wedding, she suddenly has her periods, the question is will her nikah will be valid or not because the girl is having her periods?

Q: A Molisab recently said in a bayan:

"The Islamic method of giving money to one's spouse (wife) is as follows; you should give her household shopping money so that she can buy food and other such things for the family (the husband and children). As regards to this 'shopping money' you are allowed to ask her to show you how she spent the money and she is not allowed to give sadaqa, etc from that money without your permission.

In addition to that you have to give her regular 'spending/pocket money' for her services to you as she can't go out to earn herself (as she is busy serving you and the children). As regards to this 'pocket money' after you give it to her it becomes her 'mi-lk' (possession) and therefore you can't ask her how she spent the money or who she spent it on, etc. If she wishes she can give it all to her parents and you have to right to ask or demand that she stops giving to her parents, etc.

The wife should also save up the 'pocket money' and give her zakat , go for hajj and perform other obligations with this money instead of paying zakat, etc from the husbands money "

Mufti saheb my question is - Is this statement of the Molisab correct?

Q: A young girl has married over a year ago into a united family of five members comprising of her husband, his father, mother, younger brother (unmarried) and younger sister (already married). The husband’s demand over his wife is that she become part of and fully blend with his family in order to make him happy. His demand is that he will and can only be happy with her if his family is happy with her. The wife, whilst making some attempts to do so, has been having difficulty with and also occasionally unwilling to agree fully to keeping to the terms of his demand while also having to take care of a six month old baby.

Can this demand of the husband upon his wife be an acceptable and justifiable cause for his marriage to weaken or break up as he has threatened to do so on occasions?

Q: Could you please forward me any article or kindly let me know any book name how one can spend first night marriage life according to Shari'ah as I was asked by one of my friends he told me that you have to make maswara with respected ulama, that's why only I am sending this message to you, kindly confirm urgently. 

Q: I am writing this email because someone known to me is facing a strange situation and have insisted me to ask you this question. He is already married but have contracted nikah with someone else as well. However, when he committed the second lady about nikah, there wasn't any witness to that. Soon after that promise (or whatever you call it) the lady called her father and told about it. Father called the person and showed his agreement to her daughter's decision. Then they publicized this agreement to their family members. The first wife of the person called the lady and discussed various matters about her husband's marriage with the lady. Subsequently, the first wife announced that in their family. everyone accepted this decision. However, till date no formal document has been signed.

Now a million dollar question is about validity of this nikah. Please comment in the light of Quran and Sunnah.