Nikaah & Marriage Issues

What to do During Pregnancy

Q: Respected Ulama, trough the grace of Allah all mighty, my wife has found out that she is pregnant. We are most grateful to Allah, and at the same time we do not want to displease Allah by doing things the wrong way. My question firstly is: Is there any law about a time period were one should not tell others about the pregnancy? Secondly if you can please give some targheeb on what sunnah practices should be carried out during the pregnancy and at the time of birth and the first few weeks? May Allah reward you plenty fold and make your task an easy one.

Who will be the Wali?

Q: We had an affair and had an illegitimate daughter from that affair. After that we got married. Now my daughter is 20 years old. She does not know anything about this and she is going to marry soon. My question is can I be the Wali (guardian) to my daughter? If not who can be the Wali?

Monthly Allowance for the Wife

Q: Asalaamu Alaykum. I am married for 5 years, for the first three years, I would receive an allowance from my husband. Now for almost two years, he doesn't give me a cent, and always complains that he has many debts to pay. I feel that the debts are his own doing and that I am being cheated off my allowance so that he can pay his debts. It gets so bad sometimes that if I need a little money, I have to borrow from the neighbour as he sternly refuses to give me money for myself. With regards to groceries, he buys the necessary items. But I'm talking about money for my personal use. Is it right for him to do this?

Nikaah in accordance to the Sunnah

Q: I am soon to be married, insha-Allah. I want to know how to perform the wedding in accordance to the sunnah.

  1. What is the sunnah mahr and the amount in South African Rands?

  2. What is the Shar'ee status of having a wedding and calling people?

  3. When is the sunnat time for having the walimah? Does khalwah (in referance to the walimah) refer to seclusion only or does one have to have intercourse?

Using a Sheath during Intercourse

Q: I am aware that oral sex is Makrooh.  I have recently come across an article(western health website) stating that impurites from private organs could be dangerous and one should avoid these coming into the mouth. The article suggested using a sheath (alternatively dental dam) to cover the private area of a women before doing such acts. If one does take the above precautions, will the act be permissable?