Nikaah & Marriage Issues

Q: My husband has 2 wives. I am a working lady and share 60-70% of my and my kids' expenditures with my salary and job, but the other one is a house wife who is totally dependant on my husband. My husband spends one night with me and the other night with her. I work from 7 am to 5 pm. But my husband has broken shifts. He is free in the afternoon, so everyday he goes to my cowife's house in the afternoon because I am not at home and from there he goes to work again. On the way back to my cowive's house, he visits me for an hour everyday.

My cowife says that it is unfair that he spends time with me from her night. She also argues , "He spends the afternoons at my house because you are not available, it is not my problem. You can leave the job and stay with me in my house. Otherwise he should not visit you when it is my turn." She says that Allah will punish me for all this.

Please tell me where I am wrong? Shall we divide my available time half-half between me and my cowife or what?

Q: I have been married for less than 6 months and will be having the rukhsati (reception) very soon, probably in a month. My wife and I go out occasionally and sometimes I drop her at work. We hold hands while I drive her to work. Is this wrong? We also cuddle at times. Is this wrong? We kissed few times. Was this wrong? What I mean by wrong was it inappropriate since the valima is yet to happen however I have not consummated her nor do I intend to until the reception is done in shaa allah but just have my concerns since I don't want to do anything wrong. Your advise will be much appreciated as the local muftis told me something about tanhai that if tanhai happened then I have to do valima with in 3 days. I am kinda scared and I don't get the point of tanhai. Also for your information we did have a small ceremony to inform that I have completed the wedding rituals. does this help?

Q: I have two kids aged 3 and 8 months. I suspect my wife is pregnant again. She is still breast feeding our 8 month old baby and we are not prepared for a 3rd baby yet. Is it valid to terminate the pregnancy? 

Q: My friend got divorced 8-9 years ago. Now she is going to marry again. She has a daughter who is now 8 years old. She wants to know what does Islam say about her daughter's relation with her husband to be. Will he be a mahram or non mahram for her daughter once she gets married to him?

Q: Before my marriage I used to masturbate and I used to think about my mother in law having sex with me while masturbating. I used to think about taking out her bra and nikars. Is my nikaah valid or broken by just thinking about her. I didn't touch her with lust.

Q: A couple has done nikah and Rukhsati will be a few months later. The parents want to have a function in a hall and feed the guests to let their daughter go with her husband. After alot of insisting they are not doing that and now they are letting the husband take the daughter directly from the house without any function. The girl's side would like to feed their guests. The groom is totally against this. Can the parents feed their guests with another intention and not for the rukhsati?

Q: My father is a Muslim from Bangladesh and my mother was a Hindu from India. Now she is a Muslim. They were in a relationship like boyfriend/girlfriend in 1992. That time my mother got pregnant by my father before marriage. Then I was born. My mother escaped with my father and left her own country, family and converted to Islam. Finally they got married in an Islamic way when I was 4 months old. My question is, am I an illegitimate son of my family?

Q: I want to ask you if physical relationship does not take place on the wedding night, will the walima food be haraam? 

Q: One of my relatives is buying second hand jewellery which has been used by his sister. He wants to give the jewellery to his future wife when they get married without telling her that it is not new jewellery. Is this acceptable in Islam?

Q: If I want to marry my mother's father's brother's daughter, is it allowed in Islam? What should I do?