Nikaah & Marriage Issues

Addicted to porn

Q: I am a married man with kids. However, I have been addicted to porn and cyber sex. My wife doesn't know, but i feel I cheat her and also commit a grave sin. I have tried to stop and repent many times but after a break of a month or so I start again. I feel hopeless and fear marriage break up and later on hell in my after life. Knowing I have made gunah-e-kabeera and that I have back tracked after repenting, is there hope for me? What should I do to cleanse myself and be hopeful of paradise?

Delaying in paying the Dowry

Q: If during the nikah, the wife gave the groom a specified amount of time to give the dowry. Example: The wife gave the groom till August 28th to give Dowry of $300. Since then the groom has put the money into a non-interest savings but the couple needed to take from the savings to make ends meet. The total amount put into savings exceeds the $300 dowry. Is the marriage still valid if $300 isn't given to the bride by august 28th?

Taking a second wife without informing the first

Q: Is it permissible for a husband to get into a second marriage without informing his first wife? Even after the second marriage he lied to his first wife and didn't let her know two or three years after the second marriage. Now the wife came to know and is in shock since the first marriage was 17 years old and the first wife was also quite young and a mother of four kids. She now wants her husband to divorce the second wife but husband is not willing. The second nikkah was also not announced in both sides.

Marrying one's Mothers Cousin

Q: Is marring one's mothers cousin allowed in Islam? I am a IT Employee working in an MNC. I have a question and seeking your guidance under the light of the Hadith. There is a girl in my family and she is my mothers cousin sister. I stay in a different city as I have job there. I some times chat with her over the internet. Just a very normal chat like "How are you & every one at home?" "What's going on? This and that." Our family know that we chat. Once I asked her about her marriage proposals. She said that many people come to see but no one is selecting her. Every one is taking out some reason or the other for rejection. I went to an IT conference. There was a topic "Why are Girls not getting married?” The reasons and the worries of the parents were explained. We were encouraged to move Forward and do some thing for the sake of Allah. Allah will reward you for what you do. I decided to marry her and wanted to tell my parents, but before that I wanted to ask the girl. She took some time and she also agreed. So I told to my parents and my parents were ok with it. She also told the same to her parents. This has became a very big issue now because of which there are disputes in my family. I want to know if what I did was correct or wrong and what should I do now?