Miscellaneous

Relationship with one's father after divorce

Q: I have a very complicated question for you. Basically, my mother got divorced from my father many years ago, it was a forced marriage and was not built to last of course. Father was 40 years older than her, she was just 16 when she got married. Now she is saying I cannot speak to him, nor attend his funeral if he dies. In fact this year she has told me to completely sever all relations with him, otherwise she will disown me. I know she has been through hell and back because of him, and they did not get on well with one another, but do I have any rights, or must I be obedient and do sabr? If mother finds out that I have even glanced at him, I will be disowned and possibly thrown out of the house. I don't blame either of them. I love them both, but why must I go through all this? Is this a punishment for my sins? Your help would be greatly appreciated.

Jazaakallah

Q: This is with regards to saying Jazaakumullah khair. One of my beloved teachers told us that it is preferable to say: Jazaakumullah khair i.e. plural form instead of Jazaakallah khair or Jazaakillah khair. Kindly explain me with acceptable evidence if it is correct to do so as my friends are not accepting this.

Gynecomastia surgery

Q: I have been diagnosed with gynecomastia, an abnormal condition where a male develops breast tissue. It is a very noticeable condition that has caused me great psychological and mental pain. I am constantly worried about hiding this from people to prevent the embarrassment and jokes. I am not overweight and have been to the doctor for this diagnosis. What is the ruling on using surgery to correct this? I am a religious person who does his best to abide by the rules of Allah. Please advise. I can provide further info if needed.

Suicide

Q: Everyone hates me, even my mother wanted to kill me. Please help me I am also fed up with my life and want to commit suicide. Help me, what can I do?