Miscellaneous

Q: My mother (christian) keeps abusing me verbally. Each day she is telling me continuously how bad I am, that nobody can ever love me, that I'm too stupid for everything, that my fiancee will also soon leave me (she says) because I'm so bad. Because of that I got depressions, panic attacks, huge fear from going to school. I'm trying to stay calm or go away, tell her to stop but she doesn't care. I know the value off mothers in Islam and don't want to displease Allah. But what should I do?

Q: Before we do any action we recite bismillah. Is there any harm if I add  to it and say "bismillah was salaatu was salaamu ala rasulillah" before I commence any action whether small or big?

Q: I have Australian parrots in my home. They are almost 10. We are feeding them properly and taking them for medical check ups as well. They started laying eggs. At the moment they don't have eggs in the cage. I want to set them free because after all they are birds and they can be more happy outside but I am afraid as we'll because we live in Dubai and the weather isn't that pleasant here. Since the day I started feeding them, our house and things became more settled. I am afraid and confused if I set them free may be in our house the Barkat is due to them. I am totally confused what to do either keep them or set them free. Is it a sin to keep them or what shall I do?

Q: I am a single mother of my only son who is 29 years of age and is mentally disabled. The reason I am writing this question to you is because he gets a monthly disable grant and I wanted to know if I can use a portion of that money for my personal needs or do I have to ask him or either tell him? And the other is that I wanted to know if I wanted to buy his groceries for the month do I have to ask him or tell him because he is unable to do his shopping by himself?

Mufti Saheb I also request that you advise me accordingly on what is the Shari'ah ruling and the best way to handle this situation and also to make special dua for my son and for myself.

Q: I had a question regarding tawbah. Can you give me a basic explanation on what are the requirements for one's tawbah to be accepted?

Q: If you backbited the dead, how do you ask for their forgiveness?

Q: If a woman marrys a man simply for the dowry then steals from the man forcing a divorce how does Allah judge this case?

Q: A non muslim person has made a firm intention to accept islam Alhamdulillah. The challenge is that this person has been undergoing a sex change to such an extent that all features are feminine including breasts and voice. The only procedure this person needs to undergo is the sex organ change.

1. Should this person be advised to reverse the process or should this person be allowed to go ahead with the sex change. (If told not to there is a fear that he will turn away from Islam).
2. Should the above be done after this person recites the shahadah or before?
3. At this stage (before the sex organ change)is this person regarded as a male or a female  considering all apparent features are feminine?
4. Who should be allowed to interact with this person a muslim male or a female?
5. What other advice can mufti sahib give regarding this matter?

A detailed response on the above matters with shar'ee citations will be greatly appreciated.

Q: I want to ask if family planning allowed in Islam? Or is it permissible for a woman to use a copper T to give some gap between pregnencies. Is it allowed to use contraceptives? Is using a condom allowed to prevent pregnancy?

Q: I received a posting in Facebook and email that the correct way to write is In Shaa Allah in three separate words. Writing Insha Allah or Inshallah means Create Allah (Naoodhubillah) which is wrong. Please confirm the correct way to write In Shaa Allah as per Qur'anic grammar?