Aqaaid

Significance of Aashura

Q: Some people believe that Muharram is a time for mourning over the assassination of Hazrat Husain (radhiyallahu anhu), and some people believe that Muharram is a time for celebrating and spending lavishly on their family. Are there Ahadeeth supporting any of these beliefs? What really should be done for Aashura?

Spending on one's family on the 10th of Muharram

Q: In the Hadith theres is mention to the nearest meaning a person who spends on one's family on the 10th Muharram he will get blessings in sustenance for the whole year. My question is 10th Muharram is on Thursday, is it okay to spend on the family on Wednesday evening to get the virtue and blessings of spending on ones family, because 10th Muharram starts after maghrib on Wednesday till maghrib on Thursday?

Birthday cakes

Q: Is it okay to eat cakes on ones birthday? We do not take pictures or play music on birthdays. We go out to eat and cut cakes when we come home. Is this okay?

Taqdeer

Q: Allah Ta'ala says in the holy quran "In order that you may not grieve at the things that you fail to get, nor rejoice over that which has been given to you. And Allah like not prideful boasters" Sura hadeed ayah 23

My question is that sometimes we lose or fail to get something because of our wrong choices or decisions (we make these wrong choices by mistake, carelessness, not judging the matter judiciously or out of arrogance or ignorance). We turn out to be loser (ok this was written in our destiny) but should we not grieve if we made a wrong choice? Are we not responsible for what is written in our destiny? Allah is just so how can he make one's destiny good and other's bad. It is also said that everything happens for good. Is it applicable in the case we made a wrong choice? So should we not grieve for our bad choices in life?