Miscellaneous

Fear of being a coward

Q: I am so ashamed of writing this question but I am posing it cause I really need help. Here is the story:

I always thought I am strong enough to fight back and can fight for my right. But recently a huge man trying to hit me and looking for a chance to beat me and I am short and skinny guy. whenever i see him my heart beat increases and I cant feel my legs. After this incident I started hating myself and I have lost my confidence, the guilt of being a coward is killing me. I cant see my face in the mirror because of shame. I always have the feeling that I am a coward and feeling so guilty that Allah (SWT) loves brave muslims and I am not brave. My question is will Allah(SWT) love and forgive a coward muslim and is there any cure for that. 

Giving dawah to non-mahrams

Q: I am a teen at the age of 17 and I am wondering if it is permissible for me to give Dawah to a non-mahram female. So I can keep in contact and choose her for marriage when Im ready. As of now I have made no absolute contact with her or exchange of words. 

Keeping a care taker to look after one's old mother

Q: I have a care taker working for me in my home helping me to look after my old mother. Recently she told me that legally she is unable to work in this country. I was unaware of this and I am worried for my mother as she needs the care. Should I end the care takers employment or can I give her a gift rather than wages and keep her on? My two brothers are paying me for the care taker and they said that they are responsible for her payment. If I can give her a gift then how do I calculate the amount I pay her?

Involvement in vain activities

Q: Mufti Saheb, if no money or goods are involved, is it halaal to have a league, with family, where you predict football match results and then have a league table of who got the most predictions right, based on their odds? There is no money or real stake (in the form of any asset) involved. It's done for fun and of course, a small feeling of achievement when someone wins or leads.