Miscellaneous

Q: Its been a while I'm having some confusion about my attitude whether its something one calls self respect or sort of pride or ego. I'm not able to differentiate between the two terms. I'm aware of the virtues of forgiving others and have positive thoughts for others yet at times, no matter how much I try, I cant let go off the feeling that somebody did that to me, hurt my sentiments, and how much I try to get away from such negativity, it comes back to my mind with even more potential. Like, I will think "Did you forget what was done to you? Do you still wanna go and meet them? They cant be your allies like the way they used to be before.

One thing I would like to clear, it's not that I'm an egoistic person, I forgive easily but maintain a distance, even if my heart is willing to get the same ties back. Is it a version of pride? I need advice regarding my behavior towards such attitudes of people, even of close friends!

Q: I will be working in a company for internship very shortly. There are 3 questions.

1. How should I divide this money in accordance to Deen?

2. I would like to know how should I divide this money among my parents and my 1 younger sister?

3. Is it necessary to provide for my paternal and maternal grandparents if they are wealthy?

Q: I have a question regarding if something is haram and shirk. There's this thing called subliminals and they’re essentially these affirmations that reach your subconscious to help change some things or help improve yourself. For example, get longer eyelashes or improve your memory. Is it shirk? Also, some don’t have music playing, usually rain drops or silence.

Q: Can you please let me know the adab and sunnah of letters? For example, letter writing and receiving letters.

Q: How should one treat a kafir if that person is your blood relation?

Q: I've made gheebat of many people but now I have repented.

1. Is it necessary to ask them for forgiveness as they do not know that I've made gheebat about them?

2. If I've made gheebat about somebody many years ago and they knew about it at that time but most probably forgot it now, do I have to ask them for forgiveness?

Q: Is rain always a cause of Allah's mercy?

Q: Please advise me on the following and how I should respond.

I have been attending a musjid for a considerably long period ever since I moved into the area like 6-7 years. Whilst attending the musjid, nobody was welcoming and friendly. I'm quite wealthy, but I dont like showing of my wealth so I remain as a normal person, no fancy car, everything normal. Actually under normal, you won't even want a lift in my car.

So after some years, people started to find out that I'm actually wealthy, and now they starting to be friendly, and make conversation. I greet but I feel they only doing this now because they know I'm rich? Specific people have been racist to me straight for 6 years, but when they found out about the companies I own, their attitude changed.

I was brought up to think that its not the wealth or the lineage or race that is important but his belief in Allah Ta'ala and his pious nature. How must I interact with these people because they cleary like me because of money and nothing else. I have been testing them and gave them 6-7 years.

Q: Would it be considered halal to inject yourself with hormones for weight loss for non medical purposes?

Q: I wanted to know if it is permissible to make a few copies of my ID and certify and keep it for future use? Will this be counted as photography. Should I then not make any copies but when the need arises then I must make 1 copy, certify it and then use it?