Q: In Islam, we are not allowed to break communication with someone for more than three days. But what if we have a valid reason to?
For example, if a Muslim rapes a Muslimah and they live in the same community, are the brothers of the victim supposed to make peace with the rapist. This is based on a real life situation.
Q: A certain Darul Uloom has said that it is permissible to make gheebat of an oppressor? Is this true?
Q: Two people are entering a house. The first person who enters says assalaamu alaykum. Should the second person who enters say wa alaykumus salaam, in response to the first persons salaam or should they say assalaamu alaykum as we learn is the etiquettes of entering a house??
Q: My husband goes to a female psychologist. He sits alone with her in a room. He speaks to her about me and discusses me with her. I asked him to stop going to her and instead rather go to a Mufti and also allow me to be present but he still continues going to her. Completely disregards me. Is this allowed in Islam?
Q: My elder brother is very ill, but my wife says don't give him money because he did not help us when we needed it. I am very upset with this matter. Please tell me that if I send some money to him without telling my wife, is this right according to Islam?
Q: I do shar’ee purdah covering all the parts of my body except my eyes, Alhamdulilah. I avoid the company of ghair mahrams to the best of my ability... But my parents are not at all happy with this, especially covering my face and wearing only black clothes (abaya). They feel ashamed about it and also compel me to come in front of ghair mahrams e.g., servants, masu, pufoo, etc. without the niqaab.
My mother especially, constantly keeps rebuking me and saying that by doing such I am hurting her and disobeying her and that she feels embarrassed by my entire black niqaab and attire... and by hurting her I will never stay at peace through my life and so on.
As far as I am concerned I know that if I am disobedient to Allah, I can never be obedient and loyal to anybody, be that my parents especially my mother. And respect and humiliation are both under the divine supremacy of Allah... I, in no way want to compromise to what my parents say just to please them or their social circle.
1. If I am wrong , please tell me what should I do?
2. And if I am right in disobeying and disrespecting/hurting my parents in this regard then I would request you to please give a piece of advice to my parents especially my mother.
Q: If one has made gheebat or slandered someone without their knowledge, is it necessary to tell them about it and seek their forgiveness or can one just ask forgiveness from Allah?
Q: Who is a faasiq?
If your friends know you do some type of sin, are you considered a faasiq?
Q: I am reciting istighfaar and observing taqwah to get rid of my world problems like financial and other. Is this niyyat ok when reciting istighfaar and observing taqwah for these problems?
Q: I have a mentally challenged brother who is 29 years old. He insists that he has to come to the musjid with us. In the musjid he is extremely disruptive and reads his qiraats and tasbeehs, etc. aloud. If he makes wudu in the musjid, he wets himself as if he had a bath as well as others around him. He reads every masnoon dua e.g. entering the musjid, leaving the musjid, dua after wudu etc. all aloud. Even his thanaa in jamaat is read aloud as well as his takbeere oola. Sometimes he makes 4 to 5 sajdas in one rakaat. He disturbs the entire congregation. However if we leave him at home he goes mad and starts screaming shouting and sometimes even becoming violent. The other day we left him and went to the musjid he ran after the car the whole way and by the time he got to the musjid he was screaming and breathing heavily and it was really embarrassing as well as disturbing to the entire musjid. We really don't know what to do!
1. Is it better for us to take him with to the musjid and disturb everyone or can we read our jamaat at home with him because it is basically impossible to go to the musjid without him due to his violent reaction if we leave him at home?
2. Since he is a maazoor, who will get the sin of him causing takleef to every person in the musjid at every namaaz?
3. Will the hukm of qisaas etc. be applied to him? For example, if he hurts someone or breaks someone's car etc. Will he be mukallaf? If not, who is responsible for his damages?
4. I read a narration in Muslim Shareef of a mentally challenged person in the time of Nabi صلي الله عليه وسلم, who was told to stand in the saff of the children? Can this be used as a proof that a mentally challenged person can go to the musjid?
5. Who is responsible after his parents for looking after him?
6. We sometimes treat him very badly and shout at him a lot because he is extremely difficult to live with and we run out of patience with him. We have all really lost sabr with him. Will we be sinful for hurting his feelings and shouting at him? Even though he refuses to listen we still shout at him and we know he can't help it, it's not his fault , but we too cannot help shouting and correcting him rudely.
7. As encouragement for us, what is the reward for living with such people?
8. What naseehat/guidance does our Deen give us in regards to living/interacting with such people?