Miscellaneous

Q: If one has made gheebat or slandered someone without their knowledge, is it necessary to tell them about it and seek their forgiveness or can one just ask forgiveness from Allah?

Q: Who is a faasiq?

If your friends know you do some type of sin, are you considered a faasiq?

Q: I am reciting istighfaar and observing taqwah to get rid of my world problems like financial and other. Is this niyyat ok when reciting istighfaar and observing taqwah for these problems?

Q: I have a mentally challenged brother who is 29 years old. He insists that he has to come to the musjid with us. In the musjid he is extremely disruptive and reads his qiraats and tasbeehs, etc. aloud. If he makes wudu in the musjid, he wets himself as if he had a bath as well as others around him. He reads every masnoon dua e.g. entering the musjid, leaving the musjid, dua after wudu etc. all aloud. Even his thanaa in jamaat is read aloud as well as his takbeere oola. Sometimes he makes 4 to 5 sajdas in one rakaat. He disturbs the entire congregation. However if we leave him at home he goes mad and starts screaming shouting and sometimes even becoming violent. The other day we left him and went to the musjid he ran after the car the whole way and by the time he got to the musjid he was screaming and breathing heavily and it was really embarrassing as well as disturbing to the entire musjid. We really don't know what to do!

1. Is it better for us to take him with to the musjid and disturb everyone or can we read our jamaat at home with him because it is basically impossible to go to the musjid without him due to his violent reaction if we leave him at home?

2. Since he is a maazoor, who will get the sin of him causing takleef to every person in the musjid at every namaaz?

3. Will the hukm of qisaas etc. be applied to him? For example, if he hurts someone or breaks someone's car etc. Will he be mukallaf? If not, who is responsible for his damages?

4. I read a narration in Muslim Shareef of a mentally challenged person in the time of Nabi صلي الله عليه وسلم, who was told to stand in the saff of the children? Can this be used as a proof that a mentally challenged person can go to the musjid?

5. Who is responsible after his parents for looking after him?

6. We sometimes treat him very badly and shout at him a lot because he is extremely difficult to live with and we run out of patience with him. We have all really lost sabr with him. Will we be sinful for hurting his feelings and shouting at him? Even though he refuses to listen we still shout at him and we know he can't help it, it's not his fault , but we too cannot help shouting and correcting him rudely.

7. As encouragement for us, what is the reward for living with such people?

8. What naseehat/guidance does our Deen give us in regards to living/interacting with such people?

Q: What should I do if my mom doesn’t allow me to wear imaamah and white Shalwar Kameez (Sunnah attire). She only lets me wear it at home and the masjid and not if we go to any person’s house, the mall or anywhere else. Am I right in saying that I have to listen to her because listening to her is Fardh and wearing white and wearing imaamah is sunnah.

Q: My parents had given my brother some pocket money which he had collected and saved till it was 900. Then financial problems came and my parents took my brothers money and used it and my brother could not tell them anything. Now he demands for the money to be returned. My parents say that it was we who gave you the money, so there is no loan upon us. What should be done?

Q: I am doing istighfaar and observing taqwa and then it comes to my mind that I am doing istighfaar or taqwa so that my worldly things can fulfilled. If even we accept this notion what should we do to make it 100% clean and make the taqwa for Allah. My mind says that I am doing taqwa so that my problems can be resolved.

Q: I wanted to know if it was permissible to do some penis exercises with vacuum cupping therapy (dry cupping) with olive oil which helps solve premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction.

I am unmarried and afraid that because of my teenage mistakes it will hamper my future martial life. I gave up all the wrongs which I did in my past and I do all my Islamic responsibillities. Will it be permissible for me to do the excercise on my own because I am unmarried. The exercise is to train the muscle related to that area for treatment purpose only.

Q: Can I attend my sister's wedding where there is a mixed gathering of small amounts of people but no music?

Q: Am I sinful if I see a family or friend saying or doing something haraam and I don't denounce it. Ever since I found this out, I have been telling people so politely but now I keep spotting things and because I keep denouncing things, I lost so many friends in the past as they find me annoying and it makes my life miserable. Is denouncing a sin in my heart efficient or am I sinful if I don't say anything?