Miscellaneous

Mother spending daughter's money without her permission

Q: I'm the daughter, married and have a baby but still live with my parents as they won't allow me to get my own house.

My mother takes my bank card and spends without my permission nor tells me how much she spent. Is this allowed in Islam? Or is it theft.

Also, she leaves my card in her pocket and now my brother spent nearly £600 without me knowing.

Attending an engagement

Q: I am invited to my 1st cousins engagement. I am the only female in niqaab and I am the only person in my family who is in a Darul Uloom. I don't know if I shouldn't go because I don't want to break the law of Allah Ta'ala or must I go to keep family ties. If I don't go then my family will get really upset with me but doesn't the command of Allah Ta'ala come first?